Dear Annie: My kids warn that I’m signing up for heartache with seriously ill new partner

Dear Annie:

I’m in my early 60s, recently divorced after a long marriage and trying to build a new life. A few months ago, I reconnected with someone I dated briefly in my 20s. He’s kind, attentive and everything my ex-husband wasn’t — but there’s one complication. He’s now seriously ill and on dialysis, with uncertain prospects for the future.

My grown children are concerned. They say I’m signing up for heartbreak, that I’ve already spent enough of my life taking care of other people. But I’m in love.

Is it foolish to start a relationship that might end in loss? Or is love — especially later in life — worth it, no matter what? — Signed Hopeful but Torn

Dear Hopeful but Torn:

Love isn’t measured in years. It’s measured in meaning. If this relationship brings you joy, connection and companionship, then it’s not foolish. Yes, there may be heartbreak ahead, but there’s also love right now. You’ve already lived through loss and caretaking. You know your strength. Don’t let fear talk you out of something beautiful. Go in with open eyes and a full heart.

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